KENYAN MEN ARE THE MOST FAITHFUL IN AFRICA

A new study has emerged that shows that Kenyan men are the least likely to have children with more than one woman.
This is the first time a global status report on fatherhood has been published
It is however not a rosy picture for our East African neighbours Uganda and our Nigerian brothers as well as Ethiopia as they led the pack of countries with promiscuous men out of the 25 African countries surveyed.

Most African countries have some form of official paternity leave, where Kenya is one of Africa’s best on this front, mandating two weeks of paid paternity leave.
In 29 countries in Africa, it is just 1-6 days. Tunisia gives one day paternity leave, South Africa and Tanzania give three days, while Ethiopia gives five days of unpaid leave “in the event of exceptional or serious events.”

Personally, I don't have a firm view of surety on this subject. But......it has triggered reactions from both sexes.
weirdly, some men have opposed this and some women have also agreed to the research finding.

When you listen to radio stations...be it classic 105 or kiss 100 or whichever you like...
You'll always hear about matrimonial wrangles, women and men calling into radio stations to complain about their ever absent patners, irresponsible patners, mpango wa kandos....haha! There're even shows where you can catch your patner who cheats,live on air.
Such things make me wonder.....if with this magnitude of negative publicity relationships in Kenya have been branded in our media, especially our men-kenyan men.....what could be the situation in Uganda, or Nigeria, or Ethiopia...?haa..!could it be as bad as I think?MAYBE, MAYBE NOT.

The report also looks at the role of fathers as caregivers.
Growing up, african boys are taught the definition of masculinity in a very narrow perspective- a boy cannot fear, a boy should not be weak, a boy should not be vulnerable.
Men's masculinity is proven and linked with money....the more money a man has.....the more masculine he is. And it is this pressure they grow up with that makes their egos weak.....and this ego, mostly is catered for by a girl- Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
And so, Kenyan men are just doing what they are taught to do...

Most women don't actively think about this or notice the gender parity when it comes to caregiving definition by either sexes. I admit gender is not a comfortable topic anyway. We always want more, more than just the care giving considered in the research...hehe...and that's why you'll find many women on the opposing side of this research finding.

Poor men have the hardest time.....but I won't dwell on that. Gender and class are different forms of oppression

There's a time back in campus when I visited our school V.C.T centre with my best friend(Jess).
The counsellor was a female and she gave us a motherly advice I'd like to share

"Good men, perfect families exist. Personally, in my 30+ years of marriage I've never been beaten up by my husband.And we are genuinely happy.Those people you hear call on radios and are shown on t.v are just a minor percentage, who get the attention of the media.

I wish we could have more shows that really make people than break
Like the show"HOW MUCH DO YOU KNOW YOUR PATNER?"
it sounds obvious but you can never know how important it could be to a couple until they try it.the show involves basic questions like:
■your partner's shoe size
■favourite colour
■waist size
■height
■the words they use most frequently
■predict how they would react to a situation
■where you first met
■what they like most about you or themselves

Realisation dawn : what is obvious to you ain't obvious to everyone.Understanding is key.The sooner it will dawn on us, the better our ranking will be....hehe

Let's reduce the stereotypical thinking and let positive energy flow.
And amidst all these, always remember , we make culture, culture daent make us.