WOMEN AND FRIENDSHIPS

When people are being mentioned, I like the common joke from my Facebook chats…each time I log in, It indicates Mike and 196 others are online…ha-ha(mike is a story for another day)

I’d be so mad at zuckerberg for tagging me in the “others” category in Mike’s chat list...ha-ha(for real though)

Anyway…we all have etc’s in our lives…painful truth…huh?

Most of the etc’s are those people who would mention you as a dear friend to them...but for you personally, you wouldn’t really categorize them as your friend.

Just because I’m your friend does not mean you’re my friend.

Most of them are ex-friends

Like you broke up but one person won’t let go.

Friendship breakups hurt more than relationship breakups.

I am a woman. So all I can talk about is how hurtful friendship breakups in our world are… (Next time…maybe I’ll consult on guy friendship breakups)

 In their own way, friendships between women are much more complicated than romantic relationships.

When a man and a woman date, marriage can be the goal.

 With friends, it’s not always clear what you are to each other. Rivals?  Sisters?  Foils?  Each other’s biggest fans? Thus, most of the time…friendship is a kind of trouble that bailing out on at tough times becomes the easier convenient option.

Sometimes, when women are in the same stage of life, worrying about men, life, achieving n their goals, marriage and children and all the rest, things get tense and it’s tempting to turn your back on something that’s so much trouble. C’mon we’ve all been there….

We all have those friends with whom we were so close and used to twin and all the cute hash tags used for friendships #mymunchkin #mybafafa #lemtoto #lebae #rideordie #mynumberone and all the emotional sweet captions we see on social media could be used on you….

But suddenly things just got weird between you and you no longer talk…not because you hate each other( of course it depends on the terms of the breakup-if she stole your man then……story for another day).

Maybe it’s because your friend moved to another city, or she got married and has to adjust some things  or got a new job that’s keeping things from being the way they used to be or you could be pursuing something she has no interest in…it could be anything!

But what if you waited? What if you let the friendship find a natural rhythm for this changing time in your lives?

After all, if you’re changing, why would your friendship stay the same?

Patience, forbearance, kindness, understanding, and frank communication go a long way to easing tension between women.

 Practice that aspect of The Wait with each other.

Ask questions and share honestly. You might be reunited with friends you thought you’d lost.