FBF....TDH....It's not obvious

Finally!
FriYAY is here..!!
It's flashback Friday...ladies, let's take the road down our lives...

This piece is meant to be a flashback as well as a reflection on a girl's current situation...

Every lady has had 3 men in her life...consciously or unconsciously
By life, I mean, her sexual life.

I'm not saying all of us are"playboys" but that's just it...
Among the three , whoever gets to her vagina is always a personal decision.

We have three men : Tom, Dick, and Harry.

There’s Dick...who is fine as fuck, has a sexy ass body and drives a really nice car(or probably gat no car).

Dick won’t ask you out on formal dates. He barely opens doors for you. He rarely calls you. You're the one that's always calling him. To top it all off, Dick won't label you as his girlfriend.

Nevertheless, you want to be with Dick because Dick is sexy.
Dick gets your heart beating. He gives you those exhilarating butterflies in your stomach. A lot of other girls want Dick too, so he’s a fun challenge for you. You really want(ed) to pursue things with him.

Then there’s Harry, who’s a super sweetheart but he’s not very good looking at all.

You could never see yourself with him, but he’s head over heels in love with you. Harry has been in love with you ever since he knew you, and would probably take a bullet for you.

The only problem is you just don’t have any feelings for him.

Most ladies use Harry as their back up....Harry is always kept for filler dates, random favours and a shoulder to cry on when the main man is being stubborn(especially when you fight with your main)

Then there’s Tom, who’s cute, but he isn’t the kind of guy you would usually date.

 He has a nice job or he’s in college, but he doesn’t have a decent car or anything else worth mentioning. He’s not very popular, either.

HOWEVER, Tom calls when he says he will. Tom takes you on nice dates and always holds the door open for you. Tom wants to spend his time with you.

You could possibly see yourself with Tom, but you aren’t as attracted to Tom as you are to fine ass Dick.


THE CHOOSING PART, DECIDING ON THE "MAIN"

Btw, a girl's life entails alot of decisions when it comes to men...

Men always think they're the real fishers...forgetting women are the GAME


Men have so many options....from ME , to Huddah Monroe or any victoria's secret model....BUT...it's his bargaining power that will GET him THAT girl he wants(mwanaume ni effort cliché CONFIRMED!!).haha!

For women, it's easier...because the guy who gives you what you want is the one you go for(FYI-if a girl wants something, she'll definately get it...it doesn't matter the length of time it will take her)

So, if TDH is a current situation for you,which one are you going to choose? Which will you allow the honor of your presence?

If you’re a smart woman, you’re attracted to the way a man treats you.

 Therefore, Dick is out of the picture immediately. It doesn’t matter
that he gives you the whole zoo in your stomach and gets your blood pumping, because you’re a strong woman that controls her emotions!

Then there’s sweet Harry; but there are absolutely no feelings for him. Well, you can’t force yourself to like someone, no matter how well they treat you. So, good bye Harry...

Harry is always there in the picture to show you that just because someone is a good man, it doesn’t mean you HAVE to be attracted to him.

If you have a Harry in your life but you just don’t like the man, there’s nothing you should do about it. Don’t force yourself to be with someone simply because he’s good to you or he's in love with you.

Being the wise woman you are, you decide you’re going to give Tom your time and attention, even though he’s not your typical kind of guy.

 You choose to be attracted to Tom and not Dick, because you’re attracted to the way a man treats you before you’re attracted to anything else.

Now that you’ve been on a few dates with Tom, you come to realize he’s amazing. He does everything you ever wanted a man to do. He’s romantic and courteous. He calls and texts you every day. He’s ambitious and educated. You start looking back and suddenly Dick isn’t so fine. Tom is the man. Tom is sexy, because Tom is a good man. Nothing should be more attractive to you than a GOOD man.

What you should do is use balance.

If you have a Tom in your life but you choose a Dick over him, then you’ll get hurt and you deserve it.

Do you know why you deserve to be hurt? Because you picked superficial bullshit over a GOOD man.

You picked looks and status over a man that treated you right. If you don’t learn to be attracted to the way a man treats you, over all other things, then you are likely to get hurt over and over again.

This is not to be confused with lowering your standards. You need to have standards as protection. We all need standards because it’s important to weed out any potential assholes, users, abusers, and losers.

The real trick becomes picking and choosing a man who meets a majority of the standards which are important to you AND treats you the way you want to be treated. You may have to wait awhile for him to come around, but he will come.

 However, you’ll never meet him if you’re busy staying committed to a loser or you keep falling for sexy douche bags.

The bottom line is that a man’s looks, body, car, money, and popularity need to be secondary to how he treats you.


KARA KING's POTP

chica!