IS MARRIAGE REALLY A THREATENED INSTITUTION IN THIS CENTURY

This 21st century has come with so many cultural adjustments.

Everything has changed apart from the three rites of passage- birth, marriage and death.

It’s said that most girls start planning their weddings as early as age 13.

The marriage institution is a valued rite of this century.

In doubt?  How many married friends do you have? Or how many friends who are into long term committed relationships do you have/know? Or how many of your friends are searching for “the one”

 Many young people still hold on to the hope of having their own families someday, or soon.

The tittle “single and independent” is just a mask people use to hide their disappointments. Nobody wants to feel like a failure in just getting another human being to be by their side for better for worse

On social media, every weekend we witness weddings, engagements, ruracios.
The celebrated actress Tanya from Tahidi high got married this weekend by the way.
Girls still want to get married, men still want to marry

People will still marry and be married but the real problem of the century lies on the priorities that guide who we marry.

Some marriages are based on wealth and luxury. A woman who wants her children to have everything they want and need will choose to marry a man who is wealthy enough to provide the comfort and luxury that comes with being around his wealth.
Some are based on looks. A woman who really wants pointi babies will settle for a man who will give her that.

Today’s marriages are based on very “interesting” grounds but the determinant of how long they last depend on how much compromise both parties involved are willing to let.

Sometimes I feel vows should be like “…for better for worse, till we bore the hell out of each other…”or”…till we can’t compromise anymore”

Big question is-what happens when what attracted you to the union no longer exists or excites you? We “left” just like we do in whatsapp groups when we’re bored or someone offends us.

People “left” marriages and are sometimes “added” back. Sometimes though…they try to come back when the group’s already full.
Our century comes with so many Porsche weddings and expensive numerous carrot rings at the same time divorces and separations are so many, almost the same number.

Marriage is just a risk nowadays and with the creativity around, soon an insurance for marriage may come.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
So, I guess this century has “adjusted “marriage” anyway.