SHOULD YOU BE WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE, OR THE ONE WHO LOVES YOU?

It all depends on your level of tolerance for either
There’s always that one person that is so in love with you but you aren’t feeling their vibe and there’s also the other one with who you are in love but wants someone else who is not you.

If you choose to be with the one you love, mostly you will be at the giving end. Your time, commitment, loyalty, love. You will have to adjust or have no expectations at all
The other person may feel like they are doing you a favor just by being with you and they always are the ones who leave when they find their “greener pastures”
Fact is, they almost don’t care about you, not because you are a bad person in any way but because they love someone else. Being with such a person makes you a punching bag because each time the other person annoys or hurts them, all the anger will be reverted to you
This needs a lot of sacrifice and compromise and changing
If your love is strong enough to endure not being treated right, it’s not worth the commitment. Move on or stay solo.

If you choose to be with the one who loves you…, the receiving end is yours.
You’re more in control because you could decide to adjust to their love and try and make things work out. After all, love grows with time.

At times I wonder….why were our grandparents not in love with other people’s grandparents?
Was it that there was no love back then, or is it that we are having sex too early with the wrong people that its clouding our judgment?
If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with
According to XSCAPE in the song “The arms of the one who loves you” is always the best place to be
Is it then that this leads us to infidelity?
Here’s how

Amina loves Brandon and Brandon loves Chloe who loves Dominick who loves Elekta. If all these people decided to be with the people who love them, each would have 2 partners…this is an entangled cycle which needs a lot of discipline and respect to break.

What is love then? Should love be a priority when choosing a partner?