JUST BECAUSE

       

People will always make you feel bad for breaking up with a cheat.

Its common to hear even parents advise their daughters “don’t end your relationship just because he cheated 

For men…cheating is a “just because” but for ladies the story is different

We are living in a generation of a very interesting species of men…men who feel the need to marry a decent nice girl to keep in the house, his house but still keep several others for reasons I don’t understand and have absolutely no energy to even try

Such are the men who have conformed to the societal belief that having a wife and children paints you as a responsible man.

They are the married ones who don’t even look married and you’ll often find them out in night clubs on drinking sprees with campus girls on Friday and Saturday nights and on Sunday afternoon they are doing brunches and Sunday fun days with le wife and baby

Paints them as mister mysterious guy, and girls like that.

These ones have been in the market, shopped for the top layer, probably did a church wedding an now still fishers, who’ve perfected the art of luring women.

You’d be surprised this type posts his wife’s photos on Facebook and any social media platform he is on all the time with deep captions that you’d feel the love and your lil heart melts and wishes.

We cannot single sidedly call the men out for this situation though, because even we as women let ourselves down

sometimes you meet this nice guy who on the first day tells you about his baby mama and wife too but we comfortably fall for them, because of what? You think he is responsible and you will be the exception, maybe? Or you think he is a generally honest one.

Sis, we need to Treat everyone we meet like they are the rule, not the exception

The disrespect in some statements is just sickening

Like a guy you just met asking you to have a baby with him. Yet, on the side he has different women with his babies.

That is like someone giving you a free ticket to depression. Or a free ticket to your own funeral, where you kill yourself yourself. ha-ha!, unbelievable! ? right? doesn't even make sense!

Unless you really want to, there’s absolutely no excuse for staying hurt “just because”

Be it just because y’all have a baby together, just because he paid for your college fee, just because people will talk, just because…whatever it is

What society forgets is that the same men are hawking another man’s woman

So, men should also be equally as worried about women cheating because trust me, we are waay better at it when we finally decide to. Ha-ha

It’s very hilarious cos when a lady finally decides to cheat or move on, the next guy is always an upgrade and you no longer even fit in her league, whatever that is. But men gon cheat with a betty( I know I used a lowercase B) from the block and leave you wondering what really happened.

What am saying is, if you still want to fight for your relationship, sit yo ass down and work it out, just don’t stay cs yo afraid all of them cheat and you’ll probably end up with one who cheats harder and more than him. LOL

It’s a stupid trap- Don’t even fall for it

I’m not going to talk about him cheating on you with another man, because that is something else we are going to talk about, next, maybe?

A week or two ago Samm Roi trended on Instagram for the gazillion confessions of boys and girls. Honestly, I was not even shocked when I saw some of them because that’s the harsh reality of this time we are living in.

We all deserve respect. Especially in our absence

So, Sis, if his ass is cheating and yo fed up, walk!

There are better men out here

The day everyone will prioritize themselves and be genuinely happy and contented, the world will be a better place to be in

Bottom line is, cheating is just unacceptable and disrespectful.

Why would you do that to someone you have no formal commitment to? Isn’t it easier to just end things with them and move on with the fresh new adventure you just met?

 ION:

Love your boyfriend with all your heart, but do not play wife to a man who has not asked your father for your hand in marriage. Playing wife isn’t a stage leading to marriage, dating is

On the flipside, stop demanding for husband favors from your boyfriend. He has no business proving he can make a good husband. He does not owe you anything

It isn’t your duty to make the man in your life feel like a man. it’s also not his duty to make you feel like a woman. If you don’t feel like it, that’s on you!

 In this world full of baby mamas and baby showers

I’m just looking for a bridal shower and my happily ever after

Call me JoJo

This is my world!