CAN A GUY AND A LADY BE JUST FRIENDS WTHOUT ANY BENEFITS/EXPECTATIONS?

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 It’s been a while. I missed you!

Quick question, how many fake/toxic friends have you cut off since the year began? Am I one of them?😂

(Adjusts imaginary spectacles)Honestly, FRIEND is the most misused word in this age

A friend is someone you love and who loves you, someone you respect and who respects you, someone whom you trust and who trusts you. A friend is honest and makes you want to be honest, too. A friend is loyal.

A friend is someone who not only doesn't care if you're ugly or boring, but doesn't even think about it; someone who tries to help you even when they don't know how. A friend is someone who tells you if you're being stupid, but doesn't make you feel stupid.

A friend is a partner, not a leader or a follower. one who finna roll up and be there.

Friendship is trust...It's a commitment which you have to invest in, and you have to give first before expecting to receive. Friendship is mutual.

True friendship is not when you go to school and hang around with someone just because you have no one else to chill with.

 It’s not calling someone up when you’re bored because they are fun to talk to.

It’s not when you have to talk to someone about something you don't particularly care about just to avoid an awkward silence.

They are someone who you don't have to talk to but someone you want to talk to.

Friendship is when your love for someone exceeds your need for them.

Friendships are not monogamous by necessity. Two people in a friendship don't need to exclude other people from their relationship. It's an odd form of love in which people develop a relationship without a relationship itself as a goal

Generally there is no man who wants to be just a friend to a lady.NO MAN!

Take a minute to evaluate your “friends”

Would the person you are claiming is your friend say you are their friend too?

For a guy to befriend a lady he MUST have been attracted to her or ever hit on her but got thrown into the friend zone or still hopes to have her maybe later, or he is getting benefits already. There are those men we have wanted, and somehow we both ended up moving on and we became friends with them.or some you use to get your assignments done or weed delivered-sis stop using them fellas...that is selfish!

Most of your friends of the opposite sex, Say either you liked them ama they liked you...but you realized it couldn't work so resorted to friendship ,Some are friends of friends or your partners friends ,Others classmates /workmates ,Some are our exes

A hot chic will rarely have real and true male friends, because all of them dream of having sex with her. But an average looking chic always has lots of male friends, said a Wiseman ahahaa! LOL👀

Again it's easier for women. If the friendship proposal comes from the lady it’s possible but not at all from men .Somehow, women tend to have this notion that there is such a thing as friends without benefits, we are wired like that

Sometimes though, women friend zone men just to use that to build their self esteem

And the worst part of it is that the same lady will lead you on for a while before busting your bubble with the “we can be just friends” phrase

Some will even try hooking you up with their other available friend just to keep you around and not feel bad about it and convince themselves that they are being a good friend
You are then left with only two options…either continue flirting with her and pretend everything is okay, No diners night outs or sleepovers and road trips` or become THEE FRIEND

You will realize through life that you have soo many acquaintances… Very Very few friends

What good is friendship if you didn't like how the person was to begin with?

You wouldn't make friends with a person like that unless you had other plans for them in mind. People who made friends as kids usually get along well, it's why you consider certain people lifelong friends, and it's why you shouldn’t consider everybody your friend. And that’s why most of our lifelong friends are childhood buddies and people you met when younger. Wachana Na high school

Someone you work with in the same office or met at work is just a work buddy whom you know by association. You probably worked on several projects together or share a department or attended the same campus or shared the same or mutual friends or met in a club or party and they were nice or initiated a conversation or offered you space at their table

Someone you attended the same high school with is an acquintance.JUST someone you know!!

I am always surprised by the number of people who are quick to say am their friend like woooooooooohhooo chill browsky…we don’t know each other that well. We are acquaintances! JEEZ!!

What’s with the friendship craze?!!👀

IF I ever stood up or rooted for you and was nice in a situation, it’s probably because I’m just a good person, and that has nothing to do with being friends

Some of these people we know from social media are also just social acquaintances. Just because I follow you back on instagram and comment on your pictures once in a while doesn’t make us friends.

Acquaintance is someone you know slightly but who is not a close friend yaani someone you know in a personal or social way

However, coworkers, course mates, hostel mates…generally any casual relationship between opposite sexes or same gender and any other relationship really, may thrive into friendships that may actually last a lifetime

But these are rare cases that thrive after standing the test of time. They do take a lot of time to be solid and make sense and most of the time it takes spending lot of time together or sharing common interests which in most cases may become risky and tempting unless both or one of the parties involved is in a committed relationship

Need I mention that platonic relationships need a lot of maturity, principles and morals to thrive?

What pride is there in claiming someone is your friend when it is not a mutual thing?

It’s a no wonder nowadays people are always ranting on social media about fake friends oooh snakes aaah this aaaah that .In real life, these people don’t give two shits about you and may mistake your feeling of entitlement to obsession

Its time we stopped claiming friends, BFFs and start investing in more realistic and beneficial relationships and people who will stay loyal and reciprocate our energies.

Be as picky with the people you call friends as you are with you selfies.

It’s peaceful, reasonable and you won’t waste your time ranting everywhere about fake people and snakes

Thank you to everyone I texted to ask their opinion on this and responded without hesitation. Y’all are the real OGs!

And as Wabosha says” thank you for passing by, have a lovely week and always remember to have good intentions in everything you do”

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