MARRYING A LESS EDUCATED PERSON THAN YOU ARE

Everyday life shows us new things. Some come out as strange, some interesting while others, expected maybe?

Every day is a learning day

By less educated, I mean one who’s not completed the 8-4-4 system of education in Kenya.

Ignore the theoretical part of the coursework you did in campus. There’s a lot more that those two, three or four years teach you that you can never learn anywhere else

Important and crucial Life skills are acquired within that period

Most people have their first heartbreaks in campus, lose their virginity, date older men for the first time, try out random hookups, try out multiple dating, drink and smoke every available drug

People tend to experiment a lot because it’s a transition phase where expectations meet reality

All the lies we were told growing up seem not to make sense

Like marrying your soulmate, in fact in campus most people claim they will not marry or get married. Having sex for the first time on your wedding night, Friends are not really true friends forever

I personally would advise my daughter to follow her heart but carry her brain with her

The common phrase “truth is, everybody is going to hurt you. You just have to pick who are worth hurting for”

An example of a less educated guy who treats you like a queen, can   have a decent conversation, handles arguments and disagreements well, knows what to say and when to say it, knows what to do and when to do it, understands you and has like most of the things you’ve been looking for in your ideal man, I’ll say, why not?

Because you could meet an equally or more educated man who is so full of himself and the greatest chauvinist you’ll ever meet (there are exceptions though)

Crucify me for saying this but, there are very rich men who did not even complete the first phase of this glorified 8-4-4 system who are being chased around by very educated women and there are also very educated men who even a less educated woman cannot stand

At the end of the day I feel a person’s character, personality and personal attractive attributes you’re looking for in a partner is all that counts.

Completing the education system should not be a measure of intelligence because some people did not go through the whole of it due to some reasons not upon you to judge or question,and most of the time it is never their fault or liking

And I find it hypocritical when someone dumps a less educated Kenyan guy for a white guy who left it all at high school and dint go to college

Same way, English is not a measure of intelligence, it’s just a language-mode of communication

During one of the single ladies meetings at my church, our pastor mentioned that she would not advocate for marrying or even dating a less educated man than she is.one of her reasons being that there’s a level of discipline in a person who can wake up for a cat or exam which is optional., attending classes, doing and handing in assignments on time, showing up on time for group assignments like is the norm in college. That discipline can be hard to find in one who did not go through the system

Just the same way it is so hard for those who did not attend nursery school to delay gratification. In nursery school, all we carried to school was nicely packed delicious food that we had to wait till break time to eat .The essence of keeping your food till break time was to teach us to delay gratification. (Look around your office, we all know the guys who eat all their food by 10a.m so at lunch break they have to go for another helping)

She said if she was to be married again, she would pray like the world is going to end. According to her, the problem in today’s society is that we don’t know when to pray... We wait till last minute then start pressurizing God.

My pastor started praying for her son’s spouse when he was only 3 years old.(happy belated mothers’ day to her btw)

If only we were less judgmental and picky based on academics and education level when choosing a partner, prayed more for them before we met them, and believed our parents’ prayers will be answered, happiness would not be an advice to be sought after.

These are just my thoughts

Call me Chica!